Christmas and the Holiday Season can bring a wide range of emotions as people come together to enjoy the festivities, but it can also be a sad and painful time when feelings of loss intensify, and we miss loved ones who are no longer here. There are no rules, as everyone grieves differently, but here are some suggestions that may be helpful if you’re missing somebody during the festive season.
- Acknowledge the holidays will be different and may be difficult. Often the anticipation and build up can feel worse than the day itself.
- Give yourself permission not to do the things that you are finding too hard or to do things differently
- Find ways to remember your loved one – for example lighting a candle, a special decoration on the tree or time spent in a place that has meaning for you
- Know it is okay to change plans at the last minute or have no plans
- Listen and allow yourself to feel and express what you need too
- Look after yourself, try to get some daily exercise preferably outside and eat well
- Allow yourself to feel and express what you need to. Share stories of the person or raise a glass in their memory.
- Seek out support – it’s good to let someone know how you are feeling or if you are struggling.
- Holidays can be tough but also, it’s okay to enjoy this time and be happy.
- Importantly treat yourself gently and with kindness.
